Top 5 Most Helpful Review of “Girl, Wash Your Face” – Book Review

GIRL WASH YOUR FACE REVIEW

Girl, Wash Your Face with unflinching faith and rock-hard tenacity. Girl, Wash Your Face shows you how to live with passion and hustle–and how to give yourself grace without giving up.

TOP 5 The most helpful reviews on Amazon

#1 – Melissa LaRose 5/5

“In each chapter, Rachel starts with a lie you tell yourself, provides examples from her own life illustrating it, then lists the tools she used (or wished she had) that help overcome the lie. She writes as if she’s your bestie giving advice and sometimes tough love over a VLC (vodka la croix). She’s honest, vulnerable and nerdy which I found made her stories endearing. The first chapter begins, “I peed my pants last week.” She’s not afraid to share embarrassing stories and an incredibly painful history to connect with readers. It all seems to stem from her passion for people to grow and an attempt to create a culture where women from all walks of life hold each other up rather than tear each other down. That’s a world I want to live in.

Though Rachel is a Christian and I’m an atheist, I did not find her mentions of her faith to be overly preachy. Her advice does not depend on one particular belief system. For example, 5 to Thrive is practical advice for any person. 5 to Thrive has changed my life. The idea is that you do these 5 things every day for 30 days: 1. Drink half your body weight in ounces of water. 2. Exercise for 30 minutes. 3. Wake up an hour early using the hour for yourself. 4. Give up 1 food or category of food. 5. List 10 things you’re grateful for from that day. Waking an hour early was the most challenging, but I found it was the most beneficial. Now each day I start feeling productive and ready for anything. My attitude has changed, my health has improved, and I’m more intentional with my family as a result of dwelling on my many blessings. After applying this strategy for more than 30 days, it’s no longer a strategy but a lifestyle.

Ultimately, reading this book will not change your life. No person, no book, no thing can fix what is broken for you. Rachel writes, “Only you have the power to change your life.” This book can give you the tools that you need to reach your goals and make lasting change to live your best life, but it’s up to you to make it happen. She writes, “Please stop telling yourself you deserve this life. Please stop justifying a continued crappy existence simply because that’s the way it’s always been. Just as you’ve chosen to stay in this place for so long, you can choose too to get yourself out of it.” It’s what I needed to hear at this time in my life and I recommend this book to others who may need additional encouragement or direction.”

#2 – Whitney 4/5

“I really wanted to love this book!

*some spoilers*

And I did from chapters 1-8 and then chapter 20.

Everything in the middle seemed a bit repetitive and at times even contradictory. I recognize that while the audience for this book (white, upper middle class, women between 24-40) is not exactly me (black, middle class, early 30s), I could relate to some of the action points at the end of each chapter; but all I could think of is how completely unhelpful it would be for women with access to less resources (spoiler- a lot of moms don’t pick their kids up from school, neither do baby sitters— they ride the bus. Or mental health counseling, conferences and retreats, while an investment in self, are things that many people can not afford). I find this ironic considering the poor, rural background the author comes from.

Also, I was put off (maybe sickened a bit) as she shared the her family’s story of adoption/foster care. I’m sure it’s not the case, but there seemed to be so much judgment for the children’s first families and outright disdain for those parent’s attempts at preserving their families (despite there being an entire chapter on not judging.) What really threw me for a loop was the author calling one of the mothers of the children an “addict” in the exact same paragraph where she chronicles her own struggles with alcohol abuse.

Finally, while I appreciate her attempts at describing how to live a life filled with diverse people it’s a bit trite to use the “one of my best friends is black” line. Also, suggesting that people ask people of color to explain racism to them is pretty problematic. There are many, many resources available for people to try to educate themselves first before asking poc to help them unpack their bias. I really do appreciate her effort here, though! (We need more mainstream writers to wade into these waters!)

To conclude, the book has some high points and strong themes of encouragement and resilience (I even shared the chapter on “No” with my husband). I applaud Ms. Hollis for keeping it real and fun in those areas and providing some common sense, sound advice for moving forward in life and lighting a fire under your tush. In other areas I would suggest she do a bit more work unpack her privilege (not just racially, but socioeconomically as well) and flush out some of her thoughts a bit more. She so wants her readers to not hold back in life, but why did I finish this book feeling like she did in writing it?

– I would recommend to some friends.
– I would read another book by this author granted she continues to hone her work and work through more of her own issues.” 

#3 – Amy Odland 5/5

“Things I liked most about this book:
1) Rachel writes like she talks on most of her social media…very down to earth, transparent, and authentic. I feel like we sat down for a cup of coffee and we are now BFF’s after reading her book.
2) At the end of each chapter she has “what helped me” tips for how she overcame that specific lie.
3) She talks about sex which is unheard of in Christian books of this kind.
4) She tackles many (and more) of the lies women in the church believe these days.”

#4 – Sofia 1/5

“The author repeatedly and shamelessly begged her fans/followers to review her book and post their reviews on her social media. In return, she would respond to them (how special!). Truly, this book really deserves less than 1-star. She says this book is her attempt to “put it all out there” but, in fact, it is one big advertisement to make herself seem perfect yet somehow relatable, at which she fails miserably. For example, she talks about:

1. How she had to drop out of school at 19 (so sad!) because her career skyrocketed and she was hanging out with celebrities (hurray!)
2. How she gave in and slept with a man outside of wedlock (oh no!), but then ended up marrying the same guy (hurray!)
3. How her husband dumped her (poor thing!) for TWO WHOLE DAYS after which he showed up on her doorstep professing his love (hurray!)
4. How embarrassed her husband must be now because she is telling us about how he didn’t pay her enough attention while they were dating (jerk!), but he is such a “hunk” and a really great and loving guy (hurray!)
5. She and her husband struggled with infertility (how terrible!) for EIGHT WHOLE MONTHS (hurray!)
6. She does have a mean streak (sigh of relief… she’s human!), she actually MADE FUN of a girl in high school (shocker!)
7. I was just waiting for the chapter where she has a heart attack but then it turns out to be gas, and all the lessons the experience taught her. Although, I’m convinced she would have us believe she never has gas.

She also does her readers the huge favor of reminding them that she made Forbes “Top 40 Under 40 list”, runs her own multi-million dollar company, and is a “good Christian girl” at least once in each chapter, lest they forget.

I rarely write reviews on Amazon, especially if I don’t like a book. I read a lot and I know most authors put their blood, sweat and tears into their work. They become vulnerable and share a little piece of themselves with the world. That’s what was missing in this book. Hollis had the opportunity to “get real”, but she chose not to. Instead, she threw together this long, rambling self-promotional garbage and shamelessly bribed her fans to give it 5-star reviews. It is this last piece that really prompted me to write this review. I didn’t want anyone else to feel duped by the thousands of fake 5-star reviews, like everyone in my book club felt. I actually ended up returning the book for a full refund, which I never do. Almost all of the women in my book club agreed that none of us would want someone who seems so “inauthentic”, “judgmental”, “preachy” and “fake” as this author as a friend.

If you want truly brave women who really know how to keep it real, to be authentic, genuine, raw and vulnerable (as Hollis likes to claim she is but fails to deliver), I recommend reading Jeanette Walls, Cheryl Strayed, and Elizabeth Gilbert. These women aren’t afraid to show their imperfections, their human failings, and as a result, we respect them all the more for it.”

#5 – No Substance 1/5

“Like many other reviewers, I REALLY, really wanted to love this book. But I can’t even finish it. I made it through 12.5 chapters before I had to stop. Things I really don’t like:

– she does a lot of rambling, which bored me. I feel like each chapter is filled with repetitive, sometimes even contradictory, filler just to get her to the end where she lays out her “what helped me” points
– those “what helped me” points are all you could read each chapter and probably get all you need – they’re akin to “this chapter for dummies”
– I do realize this is a “Christian” book (but what that is supposed to mean, I don’t know as I’m not very religious and therefore don’t know what to expect), however, I feel like she’s very naive concerning men, sex, etc. It’s good she seems to have found a healthy approach to working through her marital issues surrounding these topics, but I can’t help thinking “but you have no basis for comparison…”
– generally speaking, I just can’t relate to Rachel Hollis. I am not rich. I didn’t marry rich. I will never be rich, or have nannies, or gardeners, or throw enormous parties that I might stress over. That’s not her fault, and I think I should have done some research on her before reading her book.

Clearly, many people don’t feel this way, but I just feel like this book is such a let-down I had to put in my two cents.”

 

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